Wiping, Wellness & What We Weren’t Always Taught
As we grow, so does our wisdom. But when it comes to vaginal hygiene — especially wiping — many of us are realizing not everyone got “the talk.”
Let’s break the silence, share the facts, and stay fresh — without shame.
There are some things we whisper about in the bathroom or pass down during mother-daughter talks — but still, too many of us weren’t taught the basics. One of those?
Wiping from front to back.
We know. It sounds so simple. But when a recent TikTok sparked real conversation among grown women — many of them over 40 — it reminded us that not everyone received this foundational knowledge. And while it’s never too late to learn, it is time to talk openly and without shame.
So let’s clear the air — and the myths — with insight from trusted Black gynecologists and wellness experts who are passionate about our health.
Why Wiping Front to Back Matters
Your anatomy is powerful — but also sensitive. The urethra and vagina are both vulnerable to bacteria, especially when wiping habits unknowingly move fecal matter toward these areas. This can lead to urinary tract infections (UTIs), bacterial vaginosis (BV), or other vaginal discomfort.
Dr. Kamesha Gleaton, board-certified OB/GYN, breaks it down plainly,“Wiping front to back helps prevent bacteria from entering the urinary tract. And that one step alone can reduce a lot of recurring infections I see in clinic.”
It’s not about embarrassment. It’s about education. And it’s about reclaiming health at any age.
Here’s What We Should All Know:
Wipe front to back — every time. Yes, even after peeing. This keeps bacteria away from the urethra and vagina, especially if you’re prone to UTIs.
Avoid wipes with fragrance. Those pretty-packaged “feminine” wipes can disrupt your natural pH and introduce irritants. Use plain, unscented toilet paper or fragrance-free wipes only if needed.
Ditch the douches. You don’t need them, sis. Your vagina is self-cleaning. Douching can throw everything out of balance and actually cause infections, not prevent them.
Pat dry, don’t rub. Especially after bathing or using the restroom. This gentle approach helps avoid micro-tears and irritation.
Cotton underwear is your friend. Breathable fabrics reduce moisture and bacteria build-up. And yes, it’s okay to go commando at night if that feels comfortable for you.
Over 40? Your Body’s Still Evolving
Hormonal shifts during perimenopause and menopause can change vaginal moisture levels and increase infection risk. Staying hydrated, using pH-balanced gentle cleansers externally (never inside), and seeing your gynecologist regularly are key to staying on top of your health.
“Women 40 and over are reclaiming their bodies,” says Dr. Wendy Goodall McDonald, also known as ‘Dr. Every Woman.’ “But part of that is unlearning misinformation and talking about things we were told to keep private.”
No Shame, Just Sisterhood
Let’s be clear: not knowing isn’t failure. And learning isn’t embarrassing. At Hope, we believe in healing through honesty — and that includes conversations around wellness. So if you’re reading this and thinking, “Wow, I didn’t know that,” welcome to the table. You’re not alone.
Let’s keep talking about the real stuff. The “whispers” we turn into wellness. Because this kind of knowledge? It’s legacy. It’s love. It’s Hope.
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