Savor Summer Love: How to Make a Summer Fling Last
Summer love is sweet, but as the season winds down, you might wonder if your fling has the potential to go the distance. Navigating a long-distance relationship (LDR) is tricky, but it’s not impossible. With the right approach, your romance can thrive well into the fall. We’ve gathered advice from Dr. Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of The Commuter Marriage, along with insights from dating experts to help you make your summer love last.
Broaching the Subject of a Long-Term Relationship
So, you’ve been enjoying a blissful summer romance, but now it’s time to consider whether this connection has staying power. According to Dr. Tessina, the key is to start the conversation gently. While relaxing together, express how much you’ve enjoyed your time and how you’d love to keep in touch after summer ends. This opens the door without putting too much pressure on your partner. Remember, it’s crucial to find out where they stand before getting too invested.
Building a Strong Foundation
Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, especially if your connection is still fresh. Dr. Tessina suggests that a solid in-person bond is essential before transitioning to an LDR. If your summer fling has been a whirlwind of fun but hasn’t yet deepened into something more substantial, it might be worth considering whether you’re both ready for the commitment.
Planning Visits and Staying Connected
Seeing each other regularly is vital for keeping the spark alive. But with busy schedules, distance, and finances to consider, planning visits can be challenging. Dr. Tessina advises having a plan in place, even if it means spacing out your visits. Between those times, make sure to stay in touch through phone calls, emails, and video chats. Avoid relying too heavily on texting, as it can be too minimal for maintaining a meaningful connection.
Handling Emotions and Building Trust
When you’re apart, it’s natural to miss your partner and even feel a bit insecure. Dr. Tessina recommends writing down your feelings and sharing an edited version with your partner to foster understanding without overwhelming them with negativity. Trust is another crucial factor in LDRs. Stay open and honest about your activities, and encourage your partner to do the same. If either of you starts to feel disconnected or suspicious, it’s time for a candid conversation.
Keeping the Relationship Fresh
Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires creativity and effort. As relationship coach Stephanie Ganowski suggests, engage in activities that aren’t tied to summer. This helps both of you envision a future beyond the season. Additionally, introducing your partner to friends and making plans for the fall can reinforce the idea that your relationship is here to stay.
Making your summer love last into the fall is all about communication, trust, and planning. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings and discuss your future. If the connection is strong, your romance can survive the change of seasons and flourish into something truly special.
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Crystal Walker is the new Travel & Relationship Editors at Hope magazine. A former radio personality, Crystal is a published writer, educator, communications coach, graphic designer, voice-over talent and celebrity event planner.